A client recently told me she spent three hours preparing her posture, voice, and pacing for a board meeting. 'Did it work?' I asked. 'They listened,' she said, 'but I felt like I was wearing a costume the whole time.' This is the tragedy of modern leadership coaching: we teach people how to look like leaders, which only makes them feel like better imposters.
The weight of the costume.
If you have to think about how you are standing, how you are breathing, and how much space you are taking up, you are not actually in the room. You are on a stage, watching yourself perform. True authority doesn't come from acting powerful; it comes from being grounded. It is the difference between a house built on stilts and a house built on rock. Grounded presence doesn't need to assert itself because it isn't trying to prove anything.
The release.
When you stop trying to convince the room that you belong, your posture changes naturally. Your voice drops. Your breathing slows. Not because you are practicing a technique, but because you have stopped fighting a war. The next time you walk into a high-stakes meeting, try letting go of the performance. Speak from what you know, admit what you don't, and let the room adjust to you.
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You are not scattered. You are just wide.
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Boundaries are not walls.
A soft boundary is worse than no boundary at all. When we say 'just this once,' we aren't being generous—we are being afraid.
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